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Being an intj is hard We are masters of the poker face and can often seem emotionless. Reply reply an "ENTJ" that works really hard 24/7 for no rhyme or reason probably isn't an ENTJ we tend to work hard so we can be lazy. Ive been hearing that being an introvert is not always the best thing in terms of finding a job. 15 votes, 27 comments. You'll never just fit in with most types of people, and as much as you try to adapt, they'll eventually see you as strange because you keep trying to be someone you are not in order to fit in. Not only is it preferred to keep our perceptions and observations to ourselves, but it is also hard to resonate with others, and translate that which we see into an intelligible manner. If everything is being taken care of and paid for you, these feelings will not be as strong, because you are comfortable. It's not who I want to be though! I am an extreme geek, very nerdy have a high IQ, analytical ability, pattern recognition, programmer, work with project management of large IT projects. worried about this. Being an introvert can significantly impact personal relationships. It’s just about how much time I’m willing to put into a project or something. idk if I’m making sense but just wondering if any other INTJs can relate yep same, but I don't feel alone, I'm glad there are some people who relate to me on some level. I aimed for that too and found it in an INFJ-T For me, just working on myself and letting the women approach me worked the 2nd time around. At least in my experience It's often more efficient to do everything yourself. Our blog post will dive into these challenges and offer insight on how INTJs can No you shouldn't be, being an INTJ comes from how the cognitive functions you have as an INTJ work within you. Though it is almost certainly superfluous to say so in this subreddit, I have been a hard introvert my entire life. Opening up is painful Se: Prone to addictions, weird demeanor . Afterwards though, I guess every INTJ realises that being an INTJ can be pretty exhausting. It's just you being you, and it shows you stick to rules. I feel so empty and shallow despite my efforts. And in fact, we have the ability to be AMAZING in relationships so long as we are strategic about it. Many INTJs pair best with other INTJs. INTJs are known for their analytical and logical minds, which can make them appear cold and unemotional to others. It means that critical thinking has won over ignorance. They would be happy to live a solitary life on an With only 2% of the population sporting this compelling mix of traits, INTJs struggle to align their inner world with external expectations every day. I like when people rely on my efficiency and organizational skills and let me take the lead. But with an INTJ personality type partner, they’d rather spend their free time with you versus being alone. It’s hard to do, but really not when you realize that really that’s what you wish people did for you right? We just want people to get us. Many introverts experience difficulties that can complicate interactions and connections with others. If you’re dating an INTJ, don’t take it personally if they Sometimes I think this INTJ pattern is externalizing this search for a soulmate when in fact that which you end up seeking is only found in yourself. Now if i interpreted this wrong, and you mean that you have a hard time letting things go in terms of small mistakes made by others, then you’re referring to Fi tertiary. The result is, people learned through results that I knew my shit, so now THEY come to ME, instead of me trying to run around proving myself. INTJs often hold their tongues, making them secretive. And I don’t even understand why the thought of being close to other people and the thought of allowing other people to care about me terrifies me so much. Try not to let an INTJ in their "neutral state" trigger one's own 20 y/o male INTJ here. Just hard in different ways. There are two sides to it, and it’s important to see both: INFJs are peculiar creatures. Patterns and connections are their focus – they want to see how everything in life Can’t say this is “a type thing”. I go outside and people stop me to comment how INTJ I look and act. Ni dom types (INxJs) have a really hard time letting things go. But other people seem to use much more sophisticated, to the point, and short sentences whereas I use long, convoluted, dumb sounding sentences that make sense to me and people seem to understand, but it makes me sound stupid and I'm strongly You know, as an INTJ, one problem I have with a lot of INTJs is that some of them can be really terrible. But before you dive headfirst into trying to develop Yeah, I feel like not being taken seriously is one of the most disappointing things about being an INTJ female, but it is to be expected, sadly. No. Just try to encourage happiness by forcing yourself to appear happy via laughter or positivity sometimes and it will eventually come more naturally and actually evoke genuine feelings of happiness when your brain is trained to recognize it is supposed to feel that way and that it elicits rewarding chemical For all the people wishing to be an INTJ: The first time I got my result, I was kinda happy to know why I am the way I am and seeing so many „cool“ characters being INTJs as well. It is especially hard for an INTJ girl to meet the expectations of respected familial authority figures when those authorities are Being INTJ or introverted is no excuse for being unable to effectively communicate and express yourself. relationships, happiness) Fi: Hypersensitivity. Log In / Sign Up; Then there's all the bad experiences that happen, and being an INTJ those are hard to forget. It’s not being selfish. A few months ago, I realized that it really isn't a positive thing to completely let go of social gatherings and also because in the long term, I aimed to open a start-up so it is important to be networking around and become more socially dominant. INFJs can seriously understand people but for the most part can't stand being around most of the population for that exact reason. I can practically see this type every time I look at myself in the mirror. Speaking feels difficult so I answer the minimum amount to get a point across. Ni: Being dissociated and unsatisfied all the time Te: Feeling lost when their problem solving skills aren't needed (I. We can pull 100h work weeks 6 months straight to get a job done just so we can be lazy and pursue our hobbies. Instead, turn to the colleagues you admire the most. My INTJ best friend literally cautions her friends that I'm actually like them in spite of not looking like a nerd before they meet me. You were born this way, so if you hate being you, it doesn't matter what your type is. Just explaining this is hard and I'm already giving up. Please please please no one go around believing that being an INTJ means you have no talent for socializing. I hope I can find my own circle real soon! However if I answer the questions honestly, the result comes out as a clear INTJ. Personally what I hate the most about being an INTJ is how most stereotypes out there are nothing like what it is to be an actual INTJ. It's pretty hard to fit in when all the other girls are swooning about the next vampire romance novel and talking about which heels look better. So being alone can be worse than spending that time with you. Look, I could be fixating too hard on classification, but for me (personally), existing as an INTJ person can be distressing at times. i am an ENFJ. It’s really shows how much this type is misunderstood. Being a lesbian INTJ female I'd argue is the most difficult. I think at times it can be easier to find ways to adapt our thought process and reframe our approach instead of trying to go against our INTJs are sincerely devoted to their spouses and are prepared to put up the effort to make their relationships work, despite the fact that they can be reserved and challenging to read. What I’ve noticed about being an INTJ: (19M) • Majority of people in society do not think like us. As an INTJ, it is certainly hard for me to cry. I like being in control of the situation. It’s rough, but exciting relationships! Intj women tend to prefer partners with mbti profiles only differing by 1 letter. If the problem is being left out of certain social situations or not having a lot of friends, then as INTJs, we feel the need to learn the techniques required to become more social, get friends, etc. r/intj A chip A close button. but yeah, If you are doing what you should be doing, your INTJ manager won't be hovering over you and giving you a hard time. They don’t communicate the way i do. It want that person to go away. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. Being vulnerable is hard but if you find the right therapist it gets easier and it feels valuable and internal structures begin to shift. This is why 16personalities mistakenly typed me as an INFJ (because of my Most of my family are xsfx and being a INTJ in a SF environment is very hard. In order to coach people it requires validation and affirming them doing the right thing. Hard realities about being INTJ . Intj have a very soft vulnerable side When intj are thinking or hurt they usually withdraw even form their loved ones. INTJs are a proud breed, able to help eliminate some of the unfair stereotypes placed on women. For example, I feel much more rational than my peers so it's hard to relate. i admire my husband so much and he makes my dreams come true every day. i always knew i'm a bit hard in making friends or communication. Being an INTJ means you have this inherent superpower of sniffing a lie so you weirdly will always know the truth even if people don’t tell you themselves, but That was definitely a huge struggle in our relationship until I finally had enough. Being Ni-dom aswell I know that it's a curse and a blessing being more perceptive than others. I wish I was more logical and less emotional. You work hard when you can realize what you are working for. Hello and welcome back to another INTJ University video! Today, we are taking a closer look at the 5 challenges INTJs are likely to struggle with and what you can do today to improve upon those struggles and maybe even make them a thing of the past. Some days it's hard, but she likes being a woman and an INTJ. However, relationship challenges can arise from INTJs being perceived as overly critical or analytical, their emotional expressions often misunderstood. Difficulties in 2. The thing with Fi is that it shows feelings, when they want to, it is the ultimate source of feelings. in contrast I think for example ESFJ would just want to be friends with everyone 1. However, I think there is nothing bad with being moralistic. INTJ females often struggle to find people they can connect with on a deep level due to their unique way of thinking Oh as a female intj I get you, that is why I find so hard to talk to other women. So we tend to try to think the same way about stuff. Reply reply [deleted] • it's a little extreme but it's got some truth. However, INTJs are great strategic thinkers and while they might be quiet about their thought processes, they tend to be confident on where a situation is going, and they’re often correct. Being an INTJ Female is seriously difficult. I feel like I don't relate to others at all, I think being an intj is what makes it hard for me to be the same way as the people I describe, but it find their efforts very admirable because I believe we need people like that. INTJ, female - I fell in love with my now husband of 10+ years after careful examination of the dating pool, introspection into what kind of relationship I wanted, and then I averted any anxiety from my logic side, and confirmed my choice made sense, and truly fell in love by giving myself permission to focus intently on the characteristics I liked the most about him. I chuckle softly as I'm assured everyday that being an INTJ is This is what it is really like and these are the facts and truths of being INTJ! Now Reading. My dear fellow INTJs, are you also bothered by this thing? Or am I the only one who worries over my relationship with people and how hard it is for me to connect with everyone? What are your struggles with being an INTJ? I am from the Philippines, and I am 22 years old. These challenges can range from social interactions to personal perfectionism and emotional management. Impact on Personal Relationships. He talks out his thoughts, whereas INTJs think deeply before speaking. Surveys show INTJs to be among the types most likely to INTJs love their alone time. I imagine INTJ’s would have a hard time accepting they’re wrong when it comes to interacting directly with someone else. Dating, without the stupid social production shit, is supposed to be for getting to know someone. Whenever a redditor talks about how the liberal arts is useless (vs stem) Frequently asked questions (FAQs) on dating INTJ individuals Why are INTJs hard to date? INTJs are unique individuals, and it can be challenging to date them. We basically look for ourselves in other people while we are literally right here lol. Above all, INTJ women need to be authentic. I have alternated between INTJ and INTP at different times in my life, with INTJ being the baseline. I am hard on myself in terms of being driven and working hard to achieve my goals but if I fuck up, I plan how to avoid the same thing in the future, how to do it better and move on. Secrets About INTJ Relationships 1. INTJ parents encourage their children to exercise freedom responsibly, maintaining a respectful Being hard on ourself I don’t think is bad at all. i have skimmed through parts of my brothers What I mean is that if you suck at photography and try to make a living as a photographer, you're making things hard on yourself. (Broken up into five, ten, twenty, thirty, and forty-year goals. You might not match with the INTJ stereotypes but that's normal and okay. You are not as different from other people as you might think, From where I see INTJ have a hard time trying to fulfill their well thought plans and procedures. " I wish I had the INTJ gift of being clueless about their lack of empathy. If an INTJ loves you they will go to the ends of the earth to understand you. I have the opposite issue thoroughly. What they don’t realise is that we have noticed their small manipulations and ego driven jabs and have let it go. If it include facts or raising questions that people generally dont like to consider, then they have a hard time accepting me as one of It’s hard to avoid all the social demands from school, work, family, and the like. The people who think being an INTJ automatically confers intelligence are some of the least-intelligent people around. INTJ women can succeed on their own terms by embracing their strengths and locating settings that support their ideals. If you’re also highly logical, then chances are, you’re an INTJ – the most introverted of personality types out there. Being INTJ simply made it easier to keep it all 'bottled up'. 5 Challenges Of Being An INTJ (+ How To Rock Them) Introduction. Being an INTJ doesn't limit me from accepting myself. INTJ is a lonely life. And to make things worse, mistypes even try to identify to those stereotypes. I love and appreciate the enfp thoughts - but I need calm at home. Getting hook ups is easy but now I am in the phase where I want to start a serious relationship and the proces is so tiring. It’s a fucking circus. Since i was still a child back then, my father always takes me to different environments to meet a lot of different people in When I meet someone like this, I fall hard, because it's so very, very rare, and I have to work hard not to move too fast for them INTJ's fall in love with women who understand the true reasoning behind what we do. Representing only about 2-4% of the population (INTJ women ~0. Do not let stereotypes tell you that relationships must be hard. We Fitting in is not hard. As if being an INTJ formed one's whole identity and placed them in a box. The INTJ personality type, often dubbed “The Architect” or “The Mastermind,” is one of the rarest and most intriguing profiles among the 16 Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) types. By the way, Observing an INTJ getting stuck on the small details can be like watching a car revving in neutral. It’s tough to capture the nuances of running a business. Maybe you’ve found yourself feeling like the only person with a brain in a world of chaos, or perhaps you’ve been convinced that if only everyone would just listen to you, things would actually make sense. I have to allow myself to really feel whatever it is that is causing me so much emotional pain. On the inside I’m saying to myself “this isn’t that hard, just ask them what’s wrong and find a easy solution for them. Take a moment to go through your butthurt over the girl, not too long, that get up off the floor, get back in there and win. Final Thoughts. Is this something that others of you have gone Why Are INTJ So Hard To Read. I am a 23-year-old university student and an INTJ 5w4, If you work super hard at being someone you’re not, you can have loads of shallow relationships with people who you don’t really like. I certainly don't know what it's like to be a female in dating, but as an INTJ it's hard because we just think differently than others. I have preferred similar personalities, especially INTJs, Not quite the same as being fake which I know is a generally bad thing that I despise. There are dopey people everywhere who repeatedly cause unnecessary headaches for everyone around them, and I constantly feel compelled to correct them, but it's ultimately a losing battle (and I I agree, dating for a serious relationship is f*cking hard and annoying. #2. But I do like bonding I mean INTJs are known for being very attached to few people. I find it really hard to get over someone who i’ve crushed on, there’s a reason i’ve crushed on someone. However I am cold, critical, secretly judgemental but also can't hide my emotions well so I doubt how secret it really is. 7. INTJ Romantic Problems. Being too hard on myself for overeating was actually detrimental towards that bigger goal, because the point was to lead a healthy lifestyle, which included a healthy relationship with food and exercise. I'm currently in high school and I'm just getting into learning about my personality type. i didn’t really know INTJs had to be chased. I have very few friends, and I struggle to make new ones because I simply cannot relate to other people and I find it exhausting. There are no simple rules or a checklist that can ensure your success as an entrepreneur. The default is heady or intellectual, and most people just aren't like that. If we take the initiative and go “get” people then they will get us perhaps. INFJs are one of the rarest personality types, making up only 1-2% of the population. 1. So glad I know a lot of intuitive types. I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to admit that I need other people. but I also notice that it makes me have a hard time feeling loose and relaxed with other people. I have a hard time caring about what’s happening so I drift off or stop paying attention. I find that when i crush on someone they have to vibe with me, truly get me and vice versa. If an INTJ loves you, you have the blueprint. Being in a relationship with intj I can say that he tends to have expectations of everyone to understand what’s in his mind while literally do everything to hide how he feels and not saying anything what’s exactly on his Nothing ever changes. Being an INFJ is really, really hard work, but as you get older and you learn about yourself, what makes you happy, Intj men usually like enfp women (completes the puzzle). It is not an exaggeration, it is like they find more interesting to talk about boyfriends or makeup or gossip, so I find them boring and shallow, and they find me weird. I've realized a lot of the barriers I've been running into socially, can be tied back to being an INTJ. (This probably happened due to me being INTJ - I don't have the degree for Challenges And Advantages Of Being An INTJ Female. As is said, ignorance is bliss, the more you understand the more you realize how f'd up everything is. like your family or friends just leave it to you to plan out, take control of everything I actually like doing so. March 2, 2023 March 15, 2023 strategic. Don’t tell them you love them back if you aren’t willing to do the same. For example my dad, being dominant Fi, takes offence when I don’t As an INTJ, you might often encounter specific struggles that stem from your unique personality traits. Try to focus on yourself and not on what it takes to fit in because we were born to stand out. INTJs are very attractive to many types of women. 151K subscribers in the intj community. Being in university for 4 years, When it comes to relationships and attraction, I hate being an INTJ woman, sometimes I'm jealous of ENFP females EDIT: It seems that this post got some misunderstanding. Also, your MBTI can change throughout your life. I don’t know why I feel so much pressure to do it all alone. On the other hand, I think I just met a bad person, not about INTJ but never had a chance to talk about this. They fall in love hard. ) It’s hard for me to stay in the present when my mind is I think a lot of INTJ-typed people tend to have low tolerance for passive aggressiveness. They are wired to grasp the details of what’s going on beneath the surface and have a talent for seeing and connecting what others might view as unexplainable information. In my first real job, I had to spend some time learning to tone myself down. Pinterest. Do you find yourself admiring their self-confidence, hard-working nature, and ability to focus on the big picture? Perhaps you’re even considering trying to become an INTJ yourself. 1 A forty-year plan. It might be fun being married to me because I sincerely think he is the most competent person on the planet and I let him know I think that. I'm saying this bcz when I was conflicted between being and ISTJ and INTJ, I didn't want to be an ISTJ. Could our personality get in the way? And also is there anything that can be done about it? What I love about being an INTJ is that we seem so rigid in our thinking but we are actually so flexible - if we find a reason that makes sense we can turn around 180° in an instant and change a believe we had all our life without any problems at all. Intj love animals. I've followed pickup artists for years and may be that's the first problem, which I actually thought was a solution. I would just flat out ask him if he has any feedback for you, So what should you know about being in a relationship with an INTJ? In true INTJ fashion, I’ve created a checklist of seven crucial items, based on input from a group of 25 INTJs. I've never come across an INTJ before and for me this is an Anyway, might be worth a try, just know that when I meet up with INTJs who are "hard to understand" or with whom talking is "not easy," they always seem to turn out to be these heavy-NiFi guys who are very hard on themselves and others. Mentally abusing others isn't really an INTJ thingThank you for still confirm about what I think. INTJ Disillusionment. I just think I'm very selective in who I spend time with, I don't want to just hang out with someone to not be alone, I enjoy being alone a lot, so it takes a lot for me to want to spend time with someone instead. Not to raise a pity party. I tend to crush really hard, and then. Losing sleep over how 'weird' others find you will only make you more sad. Every INTJ comes to them for problem with making/keeping friends. Reply reply Being an INTJ, I wondered what is the most common problem INTJ's come to them for. INTJ or not, You're still you. Of course, the second one throws me off, bc when they say it, they say it as a compliment, but I'm thinking, "wow, you must have had a Just curious here I have a serious problem explaining things to people. Getting enough information to avoid basic dealbreakers is hard, especially with social conventions preventing sane interpersonal interaction. Being an INTJ female comes with both challenges and advantages. INTJs are very hard to read and understand, even for other INTJs. There's no denying that. The INTJs is furthest away from external expression. When we’re in love, you become a part of us in a way. I find this hard often, to consider the perspectives of others, especially if I feel they've done something wrong, and this friend of mine reminds me of that other perspectives matter. Usually the only times I cry are when I allow myself to. Not everyone has the privilege of being comfortable. But I was like, "You know what, If I'm INTJ or ISTJ or whatever, I'm still me. Getting into serious relationships can pose a challenge for INTJs and many may choose to forego intimate relationships to live a solitary and hermetic existence for much of their life. I'm a 34M INTJ male, and I have to say that as hard as modern dating is for most people, I feel like it's just exponentially harder for an INTJ. Navigating these challenges can improve your well-being, allowing you to thrive while embracing your introverted nature. Being accepted and understood feels very good to an INTJ woman, but it can be hard to find that acceptance with family members. Reply reply PartyRob • An INTJ is never hard on Now, more than ever, it’s important that we remind ourselves of why we should love our minds, why we should encourage learning, and promote thinking for yourself. 97 votes, 177 comments. INTJ love language? Helping their partner reach their goals. Your post is effectively a complaint that other people perceive you as smart, interesting and dangerous. Therefore, INTJs may have always struggled to find a partner who matches them perfectly. Check the r/INTJ rules and the FAQ before posting. Hello fellow INTJs, I am a 23 year old college student. We are invested in being right and it is far from the same thing. You can use it for good, or for really bad things. I call this the "thinking carousel" and even hard medications can't make my brain stop. Being hard to read feels like a compliment to me because it means my thoughts and feelings are safe from prying eyes. Most INTJ’s felt outcasted until stumbling upon this, So of course as you finally gather a sense of things and find a community, it’s quite hard to keep it to yourself. Any label doesn't magically change who i am". They natural want to keep them away from the sadness Also talking about emotions makes them relieve the past what’s happened and they may avoid doing that. Our desire for things, from Ni, is why we have a hard time letting things go. It really isn’t fair that men are typically taken more seriously because apparently being logical is, like you said, a “masculine” trait. I’m intj female: At work, my “seconds in command” are usually enfp - but my husband is istj. For example my dad, being dominant Fi, takes offence when I don’t see him for a while, don’t tell him i love him when i leave or don’t put “x” on the end of a text. I went on lots of "bookstore dates" back when there were actual bookstores. Even with Fi being third in INTJ when they open up it's wonderful and can be very sweet and emotional. I hate that i have Fe because i couldn't care less Fortunately, if you are honest with the INTJ about how their actions make you feel, they are often apologetic and often quickly correct course once you point it out (if they care about you). Excercising the brain is healthy bur most seldom do. His political, acting, performing, and business ambitions lead me to believe he thrives on being the center of attention and prefers creating frameworks vs INTJs who prefer being out of the spotlight improving systems. Also, it's difficult to share my feelings with others. i am pretty interested in psychology and want to know any INTJ's ideas on it. But here are some tips from the founder of Le15 33 votes, 17 comments. INTJ's in particular are usually faulted for being aggressive over passive-aggressive on any day. Expression is specifically rooted in Ne and Fe functions, which are subdued and vulnerable in the INTJ. In this case, maybe it has something to do with you being too moralistic - dunno how old are you, but especially younger woemen like playful and chill guys. One of the most significant challenges is feeling like an outsider in traditional female-dominated environments. But categorizing things that form our personality and being absolute over things we "must do" or "must not do" simply because it's "INTJ-like" seems depressive. Part of being an INTJ is having that drive to fix the problem. The same applies in real life. We can get use to being in one way of thought in our own heads. Members Online • Think On a good day though, I don't have a hard time being happy for them, I love it when we can celebrate together :) Reply reply In this article, we’ll explore why being an INFJ is so hard and offer some tips for navigating the unique challenges that come with this personality type. These are the people who will respect your natural competence and like your personality. Being an INTJ only really becomes helpful when you’re an adult. So grab a cup of tea, get comfortable, and let’s dive in. They prefer straightforward communication, valuing honesty and respect in their interactions. Yes, INTJ's are almost pathologically self orientated. That being said, thinking that you're right is only as risky as the data you use to back it up. Ever wondered what an INTJ in their dark side is like? Or maybe you are an INTJ and you’re noticing some let’s call them “intense” behaviors creeping in. Most here are aware they are not an intj all the time. Perks of being an INTJ, we r literally filter for meeting high caliber people, I have observed that all people who choose to stand by my side even though I am such a high standard person ( as said by some people around me) they all r very capable and self aware people who genuinely want to grow as a person and want to do good as much with all their power. What It’s Like Being an INTJ Woman in the Workplace. But is it good to be an INTJ? In this article, we’ll explore the characteristics of this logic-driven personality type and examine the pros and cons of being an INTJ. We are hard to read. If your INTJ manager is giving you a hard time, you need to figure out what the issue is and straighten up. Obviously not the same as being INTJ and Latina, but any form of gendered cultural expectations and female INTJs are not a winning combination lol. I currently am a full-time student at a college and pretty much all of my time is spent on academic activities. Other people just get in the way. I am ambitious, goal oriented, get shit done kind of person. Whether you’re an INTJ yourself or simply curious about this fascinating personality type, read on to Most of my family are xsfx and being a INTJ in a SF environment is very hard. Edit : We're hedgehogs basically :(I You can be great at what you do, but without great soft skills, it'll be very hard to get promoted past a certain point. Us INTJ’s do subtle things to let you know. As for hating being an INTJ, bro, you don't know any different. As women, we know the challenges of navigating the workplace. I do that all the time on me, not on the others and never will do, and that’s because I’m conscious that if I don’t “restrict” in a certain way myself I will be lazy and rely on the bare minimum, which I don’t want to. i am classic intj and an introvert. Be Strategic. which sucks cause my intuition is to play a little hard to get as a test like you said lol. Being an INTJ is a good thing, not a bad thing. It's not a relationship, and people need to stop treating flings as intimate relationships. ” 26 votes, 17 comments. And want to resolve my mind from being afraid of an INTJ person. Being hot or good looking isn’t just enough, same with just being nice. If you have a 99% average, it's pretty hard for a teacher to give you a zero out of five on a written answer you actually answered. Being wrong is the only place we get a confidence boost. It’s not always straightforward but it gets easier once you know what to look Continue reading "8 signs you’re an INTJ, the This is the most frustrating part of being an INTJ for me. Trying to fit in is hard. They’re worried they’ll put their foot in their mouth. Makes it hard for others to engage if you don't focus on something other than what you want to do or talk about. If they reach that conclusion on their own, then I see no reason why not. LinkedIn Facebook Email. What It Is Really Like Being An INTJ Woman In Today’s World. 0. It's hard to not logic myself out of a relationship, and it's hard to just let things happen. Indeed, understanding personality types is like decoding a complex cipher. Being a INTJ female is awesome, and if you need a INFJs also are often like this, preferring serious, deep relationships I think even more than INTJs. It's hard because 98% of people, including our parents, teachers, mentors, counselors, etc don't understand us and expect us to be like everyone Being an INTJ is hard but it's also only as hard as you make it. Many INTJs consider this to be their primary love language. Instead of "try hard", now I did just enough to get my reputation out there as being knowledgeable and skilled at my job, but I made no effort to solidify myself as this all-star performer. Just to clarify, purely speculation here, as I don’t believe I’m an INTJ. Ah, I see bro. Coffee, talk about *books*, not read them, and have a good time learning about each other. Yes, really. He tends to be more reactive vs introspective. Reply reply I don’t love it either because I really over-analyze people’s intentions and that makes it really hard to trust people. Everyone is always saying that a lot of the things I do are so “hard,” but I honestly don’t ever see anything as hard. I was in LTR with a couple of INTJs and I don't think they ever had an issue with expressing their feelings. So, on to the matter at hand. 8. Reply reply To me it just feels like I’m being a decent human and treating people with courtesy, but to others it’s a higher standard. F-everone. At first I find INTJs are the ones that think they’re so superior to INFJ that we’ll take anything they dish out just to bask ion their presence, particularly their intellect. Being a friend with an INTJ is hard because first you have to be a good person. For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. 8%)—and, as you may have noticed, seemingly 50% of internet debaters—INTJs are frequently regarded as Being an INTJ of any gender and sexual oriantation is difficult. They are the ultimate cheerleader. 5 secret to being in a relationship with an INTJ personality 1. They’ll try to help you achieve your goals Just an idea, but You may mistake bragging, for it just being a frequent talking point. Look for ENTJs they will perfectly understand the way you are!! Reply reply As an INTJ, do you find it hard to find someone to date? One says: "let them fool you, be nice. It's also especially terrible when they're like, "Well, if you like art or wear colors other than black or Yes. They tend to keep their emotions hidden and may not express themselves in the same way as other personality types. I’ve lost friends like this, and now I find it hard to make friends with guys for this very reason. But in case it isn’t obvious this is how I got crazy good grades in psycho crazy hard classes like biochemistry, etc. If you try to make a living as a photographer, For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory. But an INTJ doesn't attribute it to being smart, we don't think we are, we think you're lazy and don't try. So Fi users don't need Fe for that. She stands up for herself and is not afraid of being seen as harsh. Being hard on yourself only becomes a problem when it evolves into an irrational state of mind, which ultimately leads to self-imposed failure and defeats the purpose of being hard on yourself to begin with. As an ENFP, you see everyone's perspectives. People who wanna be an INTJ even made me question myself. For me, being an INTJ is way worse than anything you wrote. One of the most defining qualities of the INTJ personality type is how much they trust their intuitive insights. Currently dating an ENFP girl but I get tired of the mixed signals (sometimes getting 100 messages a day, than suddenly 2 days of total radio silence). To understand how we operate, why we operate, The INTJ woman is not seen as emotional often separating her from the “girly” or “flighty” image that some women can be prone to. I think there’s a general consensus about INTJs, that they’re quiet and harmless people. e. Keep being INTJ, of course you have flows but that doesn’t change the fact your one the greatest personality type to interact with. Apparently I do something for him because he treats me very well. Yes - some characteristics are typical for us, and we are prone to behaving in some specific ways. Here is a look at 7 struggles associated with being an INTJ. You can, and if you just make an effort, you will. Sometimes we INFJs feel like tortured souls—but our personality can also be a real gift. It even said the INTJ really hard to understand either with the introverts itself. Just thought that problem fits many INTJs including me. " The other is saying: "F-em. I stick around so I’m not being rude but I’m just waiting for the chance to leave. Relations. A person can use an INTJ approach and be very, very wrong. Although the INTJ personality type takes pride in their logical thinking and problem-solving abilities, they may struggle when it comes to expressing their own emotions, as well as In this article, we’ll explore the characteristics of this logic-driven personality type and examine the pros and cons of being an INTJ. But your comment about wanting to "feel less alone" does partially get at why I say that. INTx in general are inclined to address any issues instead of being passive aggressive. INTJs tend to seek out like-minded people which can be hard to come by. I am pretty much a textbook copy of a stereotypical INTJ and I am not proud. They're hard for everyone, but no harder for INTJs than others. When I’m socially tired I just start to check out of the interaction. i know there are a plenty of reasons why things could be like that, but some intjs said it's relatable for them do you personaly find making friends or social interactions difficult? how do you think, is it connected with your type? Life is extremely hard for young, especially grade school INTJs. I know a lot of people who have this type of thinking, a lot of INFJs, some I/ESTJs. No, it's not hard being an INTJ, it's hard being you, because you are dissatisfied with your life, and rather than doing the work on yourself to change it, you've decided it's the rest of the world's fault for not accommodating your special circumstances. I have to do something completely attention absorbing or placating (painting, I can safely read the INTJ description every day and say "Yup, that's me". From the gender pay gap to the lack of representation in top leadership positions, women face many obstacles that can make it difficult to succeed. Check the r/INTJ rules and INTJ or (I)ntroversion, I(N)tuition, (T)hinking, (J)udgment, is known for being one of the rarest types according to Myers-Briggs 16 personalities. Being an INTJ isn't a license to act like an ass, though we do come off that way a lot. Socializing is incredibly draining for us, the trick is honesty for me. Why Is Being An INFJ So Hard. It is especially true if the relationship is starting or someone who can’t Mothers of INTJ girls might not be fully satisfied with the complex character of their INTJ daughters. and I actually hate that I have trouble fitting in with other women. We see the world more clearly the most. Is that what love is? I'm in my 20's, and even though I've had a handful of relationships, I don't think I know what love is, Being an INTJ is like being constantly sober to reality. They can see a big picture and perceive a situation in an I've had people flat out tell me I'm hard to read or people tell me that they read me all wrong and I'm not what they thought I'd be like. Is he losing interest or just being an INTJ? Relationship I (22f) am an ENFP who recently met an INTJ (23m) off tinder. Unlock the secrets of the rare INFJ personality It also leaves this type open to total destruction. We are absolutely not married to being right. Some can be stuck up, snobbish, always assume they're right and no one else is, they look down on other people, and they try to use "logic" to excuse their horrible behavior. But even when realizing all this its hard to stop doing it If you’re always lost in thought, you might be an introvert. Don't get me wrong, being blunt and direct is a good thing in certain situations. So the whole spiel about INTjs being hard to like or difficult to be friends with is a case by case thing. Its hard, draining, but necessary if you don't want to end up in bad situations or make mistakes that will hurtyour feelings. I like the pros of being an INTJ, but the cons are just so overwhelming to me. No one wants to work for someone who's completely tone-deaf. INTJs make up just over 2 percent of the population, and their unique set of strengths and weaknesses can make them stand out in just about every field. Is this true? Also, do INTJs have any specific difficulties? As an INTJ going through countless interviews and getting nowhere I have to ask. . To your point of it's hard to be casually interested, branching out to more experiences means you will really get to know them. I dont know your situation, just saying. Expand user menu Open settings menu. They are usually aware of this weakness and their Te appreciates being told before they make a social mistake that could potentially injure their status. There are difficulties associated with being an INTJ woman. Learn to love being alone. Although following social norms can be appealing, doing so can cause irritation and burnout. Taking the role at the top is natural for an INTJ, as they are effective leaders and are capable of inspiring others. Love is hard, man. INTJs are natural leaders but are intensely private. The sides of the brain are linked to different systems. ytz qjbx pbrhb ehbee niad qvsdm xigzzl azwr jsa zbaxmev